“You can probably feel the discomfort, anxiety, and distress welling up in Alina’s heart.”
If you’re like the rest of us, you’ve had some sort of conversation like Alina. You can probably feel the discomfort, anxiety, and distress welling up in Alina’s heart, too.
When we look more closely at what Alina is expressing, her words and thoughts are actually directly related to the emotions and even outcome of what she will experience.
Alina demonstrated what is known as fortune-teller error, one of ten cognitive distortions or irrational thoughts that infiltrate the mind and wreak havoc on emotions, belief systems, relationships, and lives.
Your thoughts significantly influence both how you feel and behave. You may think you aren’t smart enough, successful enough, attractive enough, or talented enough to feel happy and fulfilled. This thinking can make us feel like victims because we think the causes result from something beyond our control.  And this thinking can create problems at every level of our lives.
When did you last stop and evaluate what you’re actually saying to yourself? Like your parents, teachers, and associates, probably only when faced with a significant problem or life decision – or when things seem like they’ve crashed and are burning.